Making friends in your 20s is hard.
You are going through so many changes- physically, emotionally, and mentally- and it’s tough to find people who can relate to your experiences.
On top of that, you’re probably dealing with a lot of insecurity and self-doubt. Maybe you feel like you’re not cool or smart or attractive enough to make friends. But don’t worry, you’re not alone.
Here are 8 reasons why it’s hard to make friends in your 20s.
1. You’re busy with work and other responsibilities
This is the time when most of 20 something year olds are going through massive changes in their lives.
From moving out, finding a job, college and generally figuring out their lives.
This can be very overwhelming leaving no time to socialize and create foundations of new long lasting relationships.
2. You move around a lot, making it hard to form lasting relationships
This is the time you have to explore and discover both new places and yourself.
It is hard to make new friends if you are constantly travelling from one place to another.
3. You’re more selective about who you let into your life.
It is always good to be very cautious of who you let in your personal space.
However, this may lead you to having your walls up to high and being too closed off, not allowing yourself the chance to meet and make new friends.
4. It’s harder to find common ground with people your age
During our 20s is when a lot of changes are happening in our lives.
Some are getting married, having children, starting their own businesses, moving abroad… the list is endless.
Most of the times it is hard to make friends when such drastic changes are happening in our lives and we loose what we had in common with our friends.
5. Most of your friends are from childhood or high school
A majority of the population already have a circle of close knit friends from school and they are content with the friends they have.
Therefore, it can be difficult to make new friends when the people in your circle already have life long friends from their childhood.
6. We’re less likely to go out with friends
In order for a friendship to flourish and to get to know each other better, friends who are just getting to know each other need to spend some time together.
Unfortunately, in recent times this has been made more difficult and this makes it harder for new friendships to grow stronger.
7. Our social lives are mostly online, which can make it hard to meet people
In all truth, a majority of people spend way more time on their phones than interacting with other people in real life.
With the inception of online classes, online jobs and social media, almost everything requires the use of gadgets and phones.
This leaves little to no time for real human interaction and a chance to make new friends.
8. We think we want more than one friend but really what we need is quality over quantity of close friends
Sometimes you may think that you need a room full of friends which in all truth is not realistic.
Having a few close friends that you can actually confide in and trust is what should be sought after rather than a bunch of many people who do not have your back during a rainy day.
Conclusion paragraph: If you are looking for new friends, try making some social connections with people who share interests or hobbies. You can also reach out to alumni networks and student organizations on your college campus. Remember that it is never too late to make friends!
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